'And not being weak in faith, he did not consider his own body, already dead (since he was about a hundred years old), and the deadness of Sarah’s womb. He did not waver at the promise of God through unbelief, but was strengthened in faith, giving glory to God, and being fully convinced that what He had promised He was also able to perform. '
- Romans 4:19-21
My husband and I have a few friends and family members that never had the gift or the privilege to conceive and bore their own children into this world.
I honestly never understood why this happened to so many beautiful married couples out there, because in Genesis 1:28 God clearly blessed the man and woman and instructed them to be fruitful and to multiply.
So, this is the will of God that a man and a woman should be able to bear their own offspring into this world…
Very early on in the scriptures, in the book of Genesis you read about Sarai, the wife of Abraham who was barren (Genesis 11:30) but later she was renamed, Sarah when she conceived in her nineties (Genesis 18:10). She bore a son and named him Isaac which means laughter.
There is also Rebekah the wife of Isaac. Isaac pleaded with the Lord for his wife and the Lord granted Isaac’s plea and Rebekah conceived and bore twins.
We also read about Rachel the wife of Jacob (Genesis 30:1-2). God remembered Rachel and blessed her and opened her womb and she gave birth to two very important sons named Joseph and Benjamin (Genesis 30:25)
In the book of Judges we read about the wife of Manoah:
'And the Angel of the Lord appeared to the woman and said to her, “Indeed now, you are barren and have borne no children, but you shall conceive and bear a son. Now, therefore, please be careful not to drink wine or similar drink, and not to eat anything unclean. For behold, you shall conceive and bear a son. And no razor shall come upon his head, for the child shall be a Nazirite to God from the womb; and he shall begin to deliver Israel out of the hand of the Philistines.”'
- Judges 13:3-5
Her son was Samson and is one of the most famous judges mention in the book of Judges because he was a man of incredible strength. God called Samson from his mother’s sterile womb to bring hope to a broken Israel.
'Then she made a vow and said, “O Lord of hosts, if You will indeed look on the affliction of Your maidservant and remember me, and not forget Your maidservant, but will give Your maidservant a male child, then I will give him to the Lord all the days of his life, and no razor shall come upon his head.”'
- I Samuel 1:11
Hannah conceived and bore the son Samuel, he became the prophet that anointed both Kings, Saul and David.
And then there was Elizabeth, the wife of Zacharias who was also barren, but in her old age conceived and John the Baptist was born.
All these women were believed to be barren or sterile, but God had better plans for each and every one of them and their offspring. God stepped in and blessed all these women to be fruitful and they all bore very special children that left a legacy.
Our God is not restricted by any diagnosis, but He is the God of the impossible. The God of Miracles.
'He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the Lord .'
- Psalms 113:9
But still there are the women and men that prayed and pleaded with God to be blessed with children, but still, it’s not yet their reality. I have witnessed the heartache and emptiness of such couples, and it leaves me with deep compassion and empathy towards them.
But we should never settle for the diagnosis and the opinions of this world. The world tells us many, many things for example such as that we should have children at a certain age and the older we get the more difficult it gets to conceive, etc. Since when did this become the morals and standards that we choose to believe and live by? Let’s go back to the Scriptures instead.
We should not be moved by the things of this world, but rather look to the One who is the giver and the creator of all life and of all things. The Psalms gives us great comfort and courage in this:
'Wait on the Lord ; Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the Lord !'
- Psalms 27:14
'Cast your burden on the Lord , And He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.'
- Psalms 55:22
Look at the faith of Sarah and Elizabeth, they were both well advanced in years and both conceived by the grace and by the mercy of God.
'By faith Sarah herself also received strength to conceive seed, and she bore a child when she was past the age, because she judged Him faithful who had promised. '
- Hebrews 11:11
We have to understand that barrenness in the Bible is not the same as we view it today in the modern world. In the modern world, we know it as infertility and over the years it became very easy to recognize when a woman has difficulty conceiving and to understand the reasons why a woman is infertile or in some cases the male. So there are many medicines and advanced treatments to cure infertility today and to help a woman conceive. But Biblical woman on the other hand who experienced a period of barrenness or the inability to conceive didn’t have doctor’s or medical specialist to diagnose them, they simply saw it as a divine withholding of blessing, or punishment or even a curse. The only cure was: fervent prayer.
This might be one of the biggest problems that we face today, that we do not get on our knees and fervently pray for answers and breakthrough in certain areas of our lives. We must always go to the Throne first.
'So Jesus said to them, “Because of your unbelief; for assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you. However, this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting.”'
- Matthew 17:20-21
Many couples had success after a long period of trying to conceive, but
we do read about the daughter of Saul and the wife of David, Michal, who had no children till her death (2 Samuel 7:23)
My husband and his brother were both adopted into a beautiful loving family, because his parents could never conceive to bore their own offspring, but God surely did bless them with children that desperately needed a beautiful and loving home and God blessed his parents who desperately wanted to grow and build a family and to share their abundant love with their children.
This is a beautiful reminder that 'Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning.
- James 1:17
I am not a mother yet, but this doesn’t mean I do not understand for I have seen the heartache and the emptiness it leaves in so many couple’s lives. This was the only reason why I actually studied the Bible on this matter.
How can we know what the future holds except for the One that holds everything in His own hands? I have truly learned it's better to just surrender and leave it in His hands and let Abba Father handle it. Let Abba Father do the guidance.
'Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.'
- Proverbs 3:5-6
Although we see many instances in the Bible where women were healed of their inability to conceive, this verse in Isaiah brings hope and comfort to those that will perhaps never conceive their own offspring:
'“Sing, O barren, You who have not borne! Break forth into singing, and cry aloud, You who have not labored with child! For more are the children of the desolate Than the children of the married woman,” says the Lord .'
- Isaiah 54:1
Here the prophet Isaiah reassures these women that God can bless them with many spiritual children instead and that they should still sing and rejoice and be exceedingly glad over the blessings that God will provide for them.
But if you are having a really difficult time, perhaps it’s a good idea to consider counseling, because
I have heard many inspiring stories in our Ministry where couples went for counseling and once they started the journey and prayed against generational curses or bloodline curses and asked for forgiveness of the things (sins) of the past such as abortion or fornication (1 Thes.4:3), Father Yahweh forgave their sins (1 John 1:9) and remembered the woman and opened her womb as in Genesis 30:22.
Remember that our time is not God’s timing. Learn to wait patiently on His timing. Secondly, never allow fear to consume you because you have been battling or been having a difficult time. Fear will tell you many things, but fear is a liar. Before you overthink, pray instead.
'Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; '
- Philippians 4:6
Now my beloved brothers and sisters in Christ, rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, continuing steadfastly in prayer. Let your hearts be encouraged knowing that you are knit together in love. Seek those things which are above. Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. May the Lord of peace Himself give you peace always in every way, that you would walk worthy of God who calls you into His own kingdom and glory, knowing this my beloved brothers and sisters, your election by God. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all. Hallelujah!
(adapted from Colossians, 1 & 2 Thessalonians & Romans)
This study is dedicated to the beautiful children of God that may not have received yet but is not shaken or moved by the things of this world, who surrendered all to build their foundation firmly on the Rock of Ages the great I AM - 'But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord .”' Joshua 24:15